Pickiness

It has recently come to my attention that humans are picky creatures. They egocentrically decide their acceptance of other people and things that they think are 'tailored' for them. But if humans are a small, insignificant speck in this thing called the galaxy, then that means humans do not really own anything technically. We just make the assumption that because we are humans, we can decide that something isn't good enough or if it has any value. But value is meaningless to everything else other than humans.

Thus, I can conclude that not only are humans picky but egocentric as well. However, this is very much natural, especially because that is the way we humans have been born and bred and raised. I, too, am probably selfish as well.

Sometimes.

Pickiness is understandable. Because I am very much human like the rest of you, being picky is easy. I don't like spicy food. I don't like pickles. But I like relish. I'm not feeling this shirt. I only like the blue ones.

Some say pickiness is necessary. Because humans have only one life to live, they should deserve the things they desire. This makes a little sense. I mean, I want to enjoy my life to the fullest, and this Venti 1 pump caramel, 1 pump white mocha, 2 scoops vanilla bean powder, extra ice frappuchino with 2 shots poured over the top (apagotto style) with caramel drizzle under and on top of the whipped cream, double cupped will make it even better.

However, I've learned with what my eighteen years of experience that I shouldn't be too picky. I mean, who likes a fastidious person? I don't like being finicky, because life is a box of chocolates. You never know what you're going to get, what you might like, and the outcomes that occur. So I don't think a person should be very picky.

But after a conversation with a couple of friends last night, it came to my attention that some people need to be picky. That's alright, I guess, because we are human. We've had way different lives, experiences, memories so I can't say that you have any right not to be picky. 

However, I can argue that it is not fair to people on the other party. When you put expectations on other people, it is not fair for the other person to have to fill those expectations just for you to like them. That's not right; you can't control people. And certainly, if you are picky like that, you probably won't meet anyone you'll fall in love with or be happy with, etc. Sure, being picky helps you better filter out the dirtbags from the keepers, but again, life brings experiences. So what, this guy doesn't like the same music as you, that does not change his character. So what, this person looks and acts like a complete bitch. You know what, I act like a complete bitch. But I have friends who have looked past that and I love them for it. You can't judge by a cover of a book or the size and color of its spine. Just because you've had several bad experiences in your life doesn't mean you can control everyone else. Pickiness does not protect you from getting hurt. I know you may be tired of being treated like complete shit, but isn't that your fault for being and accepting to be treated like that?

But that doesn't mean you just have to take it and deal with it or settle for less. You can get what you want if you work for it. And even though it's not right to control others, you can control yourself. Don't take shit! Just work for what you want, don't make others do it for you. If you want happiness in a person, go search for it yourself. Don't make others try to fit just for you. And don't be biased! Sometimes the best things in life come unexpectedly. 

Come as you are, not what anyone wants you to be. 

Try not to be so picky and treasure yourself.